We are given advice from our elders who say, "Don't settle down too young", meaning "Don't get married too young", "Don't have kids too young", "Take the time to discover who you truly are, who you're compatible with", "Travel", "Give yourself space to grow, space to flourish".
This resonates with us. When we hear something sincere from our elders, we must assume it is a gift of wisdom. And we can relate. We have the fruits of youth that allow us to receive and offer much, and as such there is great pull in many directions. There is seduction of many kinds acting powerfully on our senses. We are in our sensory prime of sorts and the world seems a decadent playground. Amidst the movement, it only makes sense to us, the many, to take the advice of our elders as meaning something true, something not unlike, enjoy.
I firmly believe that all of the above is true. But if you pay attention, life is happening in a range of very special frequencies; harmonics if you will. Though most of us entrenched within it do not see, youth is indeed short-lived, and in it, many decisions that define your life are made.
Here, I am referring specifically to decisions about love and intimacy and the decision to care for someone fully and wholeheartedly. We do this at very young ages and very old ages. We are capable of loving deeply and in a profound way at any age. The reality is, however, there are differences in the way our love evolves and is experienced and expressed through our being, nevertheless, this note refers specifically to your love (the Reader).
One of the most significant acts in our lives, is that of commitment to a partner, be it emotionally, physically, spiritually and or all of the above. This act is profound. In many ways it defines how we feel about ourselves, our self image, the way we conduct our daily lives, our pursuits for companionship. The desire for partnership and love is potentially the deepest part of our existence. To be with, and to not be alone.
Sure enough, along our youthful travels we fall heavily in love with some being who simply captivates us beyond rational explanation. This is so, even at the present moment. The question is, what ought we do when we encounter such love? Shall we honor or sacrifice it? Shall we nurture it or devour it?
Many will say that from the moment of its creation, the love is doomed. I refuse to let this point carry weight, and I insist that it is irrelevant.
In place, I must humbly but firmly state that love ought to be Honored. It ought to be nurtured so as to flourish into the most beautiful expression of itself. Doom nor discouraging marriage statistics should play any part in the single act of growing love.
To give justice to what love ought to be is not a simple nor easy thing to live out. I believe there is a level of understanding and a realization that must be experienced before one is capable of honoring love, and truly honoring the person who is loved in the way they ultimately deserve.
This Blog is about a Journey to that discovery. It is a glimpse through the eyes of one who has found their soul-mate and lost her to much greater and much more powerful forces. In the moment you find out that they are gone, just as your life flashes before your eyes when you pass, so the life you shared with that person flashes. All of the thoughts you have ever had of them, all of the actions you have ever taken by them become the soul properties of your reflection, and in that moment you know how love ought to be treated and why. I want to share this with you, and with those who care to listen, so that maybe you will be able cherish your partner in life, the way I know will give you both peace and resonating affection.
With much love and thought about the passages ahead,
Charles M. M. Mulhern
